There is nothing wrong with you.

I am going to try and tie this post into something speech-related so it makes sense in the context of this blog; however I believe this applies to the much bigger picture we're all familiar with known as life.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Ah, perfectionism. Being a perfectionist has its pros and cons.

The pros include always striving for the best version of yourself and striving to view yourself analytically.

The cons include always striving for the best version of yourself and striving to view yourself analytically.

Yes, these are both good and bad things in my opinion, simultaneously.

I grew up in a household that sought to make me feel accepted and loved for who I was, but at the same time never hesitated to point out where I feel short. Constructive criticism, you may say. But it instilled in me a very real sense that unless I attempted to alter myself in certain ways, I would not be deserving of love. Or support. Or acceptance. This is an exhausting, mental juxtoposition, one that the Christian faith attempts to soften with the concept of grace.

Society tells us to love ourselves for who we are but to never stop striving to better ourselves. When are you, as is, enough?

All I ever needed to know was that even if I didn't change, even if I didn't do this one thing, I would be loved and life would not cease to be fulfilling.

I had a youth pastor growing up who said something to me that has always remained lodged in my heart and has been a comfort in the face of such pressure.

He said, "There is nothing you can do to make God love you more than he does right now."

My friends, there is nothing wrong with you.

You are a human, and being human is hard. We have not been put here not to torture ourselves with internal and external pressures but to rest in the grace that God offers that says we are enough. 

We beat ourselves up for lack of achievements but hey, you are still living! You are still working at this thing called life! And God has not forgotten you.

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with formulating and working towards goals. That is an integral part of my life as an SLP.

But when those goals become so significant that they cloud our ability to appreciate ourselves for who we are today, I think it's time to sit back and rest in the knowledge that you will never be the best. Or the worst. And no one expects you or thinks you to be either. It really doesn't matter.

Happiness matters. You matter. So before you internalize outside pressures or expectations, sit back and remind yourself that the only one putting that pressure on you is you.

I am seeking to live life in balance. And I believe remembering that regardless of whether you got that workout in, or felt like you blew that evaluation or session, you are simply human. Which is nothing to be ashamed of.

There is nothing wrong with you.

"...i mean really. what is the the thing you are good at? what's your thing? what's the thing you use to make you feel like you're great? take it away, do you still think you're great? because you are." - jillian edwards chapman (http://ifyoufeellikereadingit.blogspot.com)