The Power of Words

Today I wanted to touch on one of the most important lessons that I think exists in regards to language. It has a little to do with vocabulary, or word choice. A little more so with pragmatics. But it has everything to do with heart. And intention. The power of words.

So often we SLPs are working with children whose verbal capabilities are struggling to keep up with their mental processes and desires to communicate. For these children, speech and language is limited. But we still try to teach them that there is power in their words, that their words AFFECT others. And affect themselves. Communicative intent, anyone? Point + cookie = receiving cookie. Mama + arm = Mama attending to a hurt elbow.

But why don't we start teaching this lesson explicitly, especially to our children who have age-appropriate and higher-level verbal abilities? And why do some adults seem to lack understanding or empathy towards this concept? That is, you carry a dangerous weapon with you at all times. One must be careful to wield the gift of speech and language carefully, because words are powerful.

One of my favorite quotes is by Taylor Swift. I know what you're thinking but hang tight with me on this one. It says:

"Words can breaks someone into a million pieces, but they can also put them back together again. I hope you use yours for good, because the only words you'll regret more than the ones left unsaid are the ones you use to intentionally hurt someone."

If there is anything I have learned in my journey as a speech-pathologist, is that speech and language is a gift never to be taken for granted. Those of us who have the ability to communicate must be taught that these words have amazing power:

They can:
- Compliment.
- Encourage.
- Comfort.
- Assist.
- Engage in debate.
- Give perspective.
- Accept.
- Reject.
- Communicate who we are as individuals.

Conversely, they can also:
- Criticize.
- Bully.
- Test.
- Highlight other's weakest points.
- Mock.
- Shame.

We are sometimes so concerned with communicating what's going on inside our heads that we pick the most effective and cutting words possible, for convenience sake. Instead of taking the time to use the right words, we say what we "feel". Because "free speech", right? The results are not pretty.

And the best part is, once you say something, it can NEVER be taken back! Isn't that fun, I tell my kids. Sure, you can apologize, and hope that person forgets. But that ship has sailed. So live in the pause. And think about the power of your words, before you just go swinging that thing around willy-nilly.

Words are capable of expressing an infinite number of emotions, thoughts, and ideas. But the way in which we choose to wield this sword says a lot about who we are.

Please consider taking a moment listening to this song. It summarizes all of the above.

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